His Black Dress – a blog worth following

I have been using Tumblr now for the past few months, and one of the first blogs I ran across there was His Black Dress.

What a fabulous blog. I can’t get over how much I love it. Check it out here: http://www.hisblackdress.com

Stop by and look around. And while you’re at it, allow Michael to help you see that all clothes are for everyone, no matter the gender.

When I was younger, there were times I would dress in drag. I had a collection of men’s jackets, brogues, button-downs, and neckties. This was a very interesting time for me as a straight person. In my senior year of high school I was enrolled in a new school that required uniforms, and part of the outfit I was supposed to wear was a white button-down oxford shirt.

During that last year of high school I was dismayed that I couldn’t wear what I wanted to wear, so I made do with what I had. Some of the girls there had taken to wearing neckties. This was revolutionary to me, and quite an exciting departure from the norm. I regarded my necktied female compadres as revolutionaries and was inspired to try wearing one myself.

During my senior year, I was working my first retail job. One weekend, without anyone knowing it, I purchased my first tie.

Buying that tie was a rebellious act, a defiant act. I had made my first of what would be zillions of unconventional decisions in my life. I can honestly say I’m where I am today because of that one black skinny tie.

And to top it off, the tie was leather.

It cracks me up, looking back, how my very conservative parents didn’t view my choice of men’s clothing in a strange light. I guess if my brother had started wearing dresses, that would have been a different subject. But what difference does it make, really? It’s just clothing.

Putting on men’s style clothing gave me a whole new outlook on life and made me begin to question gender and perception. It opened my mind and my eyes to all of the myriad ways a human being can express her/himself. Of course, working at a major department store in the 1980s was an eye-opening experience for a sheltered kid like me. I met more kinds of people than I knew existed and made friends with openly gay people for the first time in my life. I began to see life through Technicolor lenses and I’ve never looked back.

As a very open-minded person, I find this man’s choice of attire amazing and I give him all kinds of credit for following his muse. It takes quite a bit of courage for a man to wear women’s clothing, but when a man can wear women’s clothing and look this good, well, I’ll let you see for yourself.

While you’re at it, check your prejudice at the door. Just because a man wants to wear women’s clothing does NOT make him automatically gay.

And what’s wrong with being gay, anyway? Absolutely NOTHING.

We have got to stop stereotyping each other and let each other express ourselves without fear! Gay, straight, trans, black, white, brown…no matter what, we are all unique and we can all offer something important to the world.

If you are male and you want to wear nail polish and eyeliner, GO FOR IT.

If you are female and want to wear men’s suits and cut your hair short, GO FOR IT.

If you identify with multiple gender identities, EXPRESS YOURSELF.

Life is too short to allow others to tell you who you should be and how you should present yourself to the world.

Be you. NOW.

Photo credit: http://www.hisblackdress.com


  1. I adore this blog, too. Sadly, men are shunned from expressing their femininity because we still live in a sexist, male ego driven society. Femininity is seen as weak and it threatens the strong male gender role. It’s really a shame. I would dress more feminine, but I just don’t feel safe doing so in most situations. This man is beautifully brave!

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    1. I agree with you completely on everything you said here. He is very, very brave. You are, too, and I’m proud of you for expressing yourself as you are, even though you may feel threatened in some situations. You being yourself is the greatest gift you can give to the world. In time, hopefully society will loosen up even more. Until then, be as fearless as you can and always be yourself. HUGS. ❤


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